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The Weight of the Unopened Book
For years, it sat on my nightstand: a beautiful, leather-bound Bible, a gift from someone who loved me.
Its pages were crisp, the spine uncreased.
And it was collecting dust.
Every night, I would see it, and a familiar wave of conflicting emotions would wash over me—a deep yearning to open it, mixed with an equally deep sense of dread.
That book, meant to be a source of life and peace, felt like a weight.
It was a silent testament to a spiritual life I felt I was failing at.
I know now that I wasn’t alone in this feeling.
My days were a chaotic whirlwind of deadlines, laundry, meal planning, and trying to be present for my family.
I was, as one writer so aptly put it, “distracted with much serving” 1, just like Martha in the Gospels.
I was busy doing things
for God, but I felt miles away from Him.
I remember hitting an all-time spiritual low, rambling to my husband about how tired I was, how far away God felt, how everything seemed out of control.2
The world felt like it was resting on my shoulders, and I was buckling under the pressure.3
In those quiet, exhausted moments, the unopened Bible on my nightstand seemed to mock me with questions I was already asking myself:
I thought you were strong in the Lord? Isn’t He listening? Don’t you trust Him?.4
The intimidation wasn’t just about finding the time; it was about the book itself.
It seemed filled with “big words, parables, and measurements that can be hard to understand”.5
I had participated in Bible studies before, but I had never truly learned how to read and study it for myself.5
What if I got it wrong? What if I misunderstood a key passage? I’d heard about difficult verses, especially those concerning women, and the anxiety of misinterpreting God’s Word felt paralyzing.6
This anxiety of “doing it wrong” ran deeper than mere academic insecurity.
It was a kind of spiritual performance anxiety.
I would see other women with their beautifully highlighted Bibles and journals filled with profound insights, and a voice of perfectionism would whisper that I could never measure up.
I was afraid of not doing it the “perfect certain way,” of not being able to complete some imaginary checklist of what a “good Christian” does.7
This pressure to perform, to have a Pinterest-worthy quiet time, was the very thing that kept me from having any quiet time at all.
The desire to engage with God’s Word perfectly prevented me from engaging with it at all.
The Bible remained on the shelf, a beautiful but heavy symbol of a relationship I desperately wanted but was too afraid to pursue.
I was trapped in a state of paralysis, born not from a lack of desire, but from a deep-seated fear of falling short.
The Whisper That Changed Everything: Starting Small
My turning point didn’t come in a flash of lightning.
It came as a quiet whisper, a gentle shift in perspective that started with a conversation.
A wise friend listened patiently to my litany of frustrations and then said something so simple it was revolutionary: “If you aren’t happy with your spiritual life, then do something about it.
True, lasting change doesn’t just happen; we’ve got to make it happen”.2
It wasn’t a rebuke; it was an invitation.
It gave me permission to stop complaining and start changing, not by attempting a massive overhaul, but by taking one small, manageable step.2
The first and most crucial shift was reframing my goal.
I began to understand that the true heart of Bible study is not to impress others, gain God’s approval, or check a box.8
The goal is simply “to know Jesus more and deeper, and to love him more”.7
This realization was like a key unlocking a door I thought was bolted shut.
God wasn’t waiting for me with a red pen to grade my efforts; He was simply waiting for me, happy to sit with me and show me the one special truth I might uncover that day.9
With this new freedom, I established a foundational practice.
Before my hand even touched the pages of my Bible, I started with prayer.
Not a formal, eloquent prayer, but an honest, humble one.
I would ask God to open my eyes to see the “wonderous things out of your law” (Psalm 119:18).10
I’d ask Him to quiet my racing mind, to give me a teachable spirit, and to let the Holy Spirit be my guide.5
This simple act transformed the entire experience.
It was no longer a test I had to pass, but a conversation I was invited into.
My next steps were practical.
I learned that not all Bibles are created equal.
There are different translations, some that prioritize a literal, word-for-word rendering and others that focus on conveying the original thought in modern, accessible language.
For a beginner like me, a “thought-for-thought” translation like the New International Version (NIV) or the New Living Translation (NLT) was a game-changer.12
Suddenly, the language felt less like a barrier and more like a bridge.
I also gave myself permission to choose a Bible that I found beautiful, one with space in the margins for notes.
The simple joy of opening a book that was aesthetically pleasing made me
want to engage with it, turning a duty into a delight.12
Finally, I had to decide where to start.
The thought of beginning at Genesis and reading straight through was daunting.
The advice I received, and which I now pass on to every beginner, is to start with the Gospels.
Before you can understand the grand story of redemption, you need to meet the Redeemer.
The book of John, in particular, is a perfect starting point.
It’s written in a beautiful, narrative style and focuses intently on the person and teachings of Jesus, providing the context you need for the rest of Scripture.12
To eliminate the paralysis of “where do I begin today?”, I created a simple, manageable plan for myself.
It wasn’t about conquering the book; it was about building a daily habit and experiencing the “easy win” that would build momentum for the journey ahead.8
| Week | Day | Scripture to Read | One-Sentence Prompt |
| 1 | 1 | John 1:1-18 | What is one name or title used for Jesus today? |
| 2 | John 1:19-34 | What does John the Baptist say about his own identity and Jesus’s identity? | |
| 3 | John 1:35-51 | How do the first disciples respond when they meet Jesus? | |
| 4 | John 2:1-12 | What does this first miracle reveal about Jesus? | |
| 5 | John 2:13-25 | What makes Jesus angry in the temple? | |
| 2 | 1 | John 3:1-21 | What is the difference between physical birth and spiritual birth? |
| 2 | John 4:1-26 | What does Jesus offer the woman at the well? | |
| 3 | John 4:27-42 | How does the woman’s testimony affect her community? | |
| 4 | John 5:1-18 | What command does Jesus give the man He heals, and why is it controversial? | |
| 5 | John 5:19-29 | What authority does Jesus claim to have? | |
| 3 | 1 | John 6:25-40 | What does Jesus mean when He calls Himself the “bread of life”? |
| 2 | John 8:1-11 | How does Jesus respond to both the accusers and the accused woman? | |
| 3 | John 10:1-18 | What does a good shepherd do for his sheep? | |
| 4 | John 11:17-44 | What promise does Jesus make to Martha before raising Lazarus? | |
| 5 | John 13:1-17, 34-35 | What new commandment does Jesus give His disciples? | |
| 4 | 1 | John 14:1-14 | What does Jesus say is the way to the Father? |
| 2 | John 15:1-17 | What is the relationship between the vine, the branches, and the fruit? | |
| 3 | John 19:17-30 | What are Jesus’s final words from the cross in this account? | |
| 4 | John 20:1-18 | What is Mary Magdalene’s reaction when she recognizes the risen Jesus? | |
| 5 | John 21:15-19 | What question does Jesus ask Peter three times, and what is His command? |
A Simple, Sacred Rhythm: My How-To Guide
After a few weeks of simply reading, a new hunger began to grow.
I wanted to go deeper, but the complex Bible study methods I’d seen felt overwhelming.
I needed a simple, memorable framework that could fit into the slivers of time I had.
So, I developed my own rhythm, a method I call PAUSE.
It’s not about rushing through a checklist; it’s about intentionally slowing down to listen to what God is saying through His Word.
This method became my lifeline, a synthesis of the most helpful, non-intimidating techniques I discovered.16
The PAUSE Method
P – Pray & Prepare
Every study session, no matter how short, begins here.
It’s a moment to quiet my heart, acknowledge my dependence on God, and ask the Holy Spirit to be my teacher.5 This simple act of invitation changes everything.
A – Absorb the Word (Observation)
This is the most important and often-skipped step.
Before we can know what a passage means, we have to know what it says.
The goal here is simply to see what is on the page.
- Read Slowly: I read the passage for the day at least twice. Sometimes I read it aloud, which forces me to slow down and notice details I might otherwise miss.16
- Look for Repetition: I look for words, phrases, or ideas that are repeated. Authors use repetition for emphasis, so these are often vital clues to the main theme of the passage.11
- Make Simple Lists: I jot down basic facts. What does this passage say about God? About people? What actions are taking place? This isn’t deep analysis; it’s just collecting the raw data from the text.11
U – Understand the Meaning (Interpretation)
This is where I put on my detective hat.
This step is crucial for avoiding one of the biggest pitfalls in Bible study: jumping to apply a verse before you truly understand its meaning in its original context.1
- Ask the Journalist’s Questions: I ask the simple questions: Who is speaking or being spoken to? What is happening? When and where is it taking place? Why is this being said or done? How does it fit into the larger story?.11 I let the text itself provide the answers.
- Use Your Tools Wisely: This is where I learned to properly use my study Bible. At first, my eyes would dart to the notes at the bottom of the page before I’d even wrestled with the scripture myself. I was learning what an expert thought, but I wasn’t learning how to think for myself. This only reinforced my insecurity. I discovered the key was to reverse the process. I do my own observation and interpretation first. Then, I consult the study notes, maps, and introductions as a secondary source. They become a helpful guide for understanding historical context, cultural nuances, or tricky phrases, rather than a crutch that prevents me from doing the work.21
S – Soak in the Truth (Application)
Only after I have observed what the text says and have a grasp of what it means can I begin to ask, “What does this mean for me?”.5 This is where the Word moves from being ancient text to living truth.
- I ask questions like: Is there a truth about God I need to believe? Is there a promise I can claim? Is there a command I need to obey? Is there an example to follow or avoid? Is there a sin in my life that this passage exposes?.10
E – Express Your Heart (Response)
The final step closes the loop, turning my study from a one-way lecture into a two-way conversation.
- Summarize: I try to write a single sentence that captures the main idea or my biggest takeaway from the passage.16
- Pray: I write a short, simple prayer back to God in response to what I’ve just read. This might be a prayer of thanksgiving, a plea for help to obey, or a confession. It solidifies the lesson and makes it personal.17
To support this rhythm, I slowly assembled a small, intentional toolkit.
It wasn’t about having the fanciest supplies, but about having the right tools to help me connect with God without distraction.
| Item | Purpose |
| A Journaling Bible | A Bible with extra room in the margins, giving your thoughts, questions, and prayers a place to live right next to the text.14 |
| A Simple Notebook | For days when you want more space to write, pray, or get creative without worrying about thin Bible pages. This is your personal space for wrestling with the text.15 |
| No-Bleed Pens & Highlighters | To make key truths stand out without distracting bleed-through. Using different colors to track themes (e.g., yellow for promises, blue for commands) can be a powerful observation tool.14 |
| A Good Study Bible | Your knowledgeable guide. Use its notes, maps, and introductions after your own observation to understand historical context and tricky phrases. Look for quality, all-purpose study Bibles like the ESV Study Bible or the NIV Zondervan Study Bible.22 |
Coloring Outside the Lines: Making It Your Own
For a long time, my Bible study was purely an intellectual exercise.
It was valuable, but sometimes it felt like homework.
It engaged my mind, but my heart felt like a bystander.
I was terrified to even make a mark in my Bible, let alone do something “creative.” The turning point came when I realized that creativity in my study wasn’t about producing gallery-worthy art; it was an act of worship, a way to engage my whole self in meditating on God’s Word.14
It was the antidote to the intellectual burnout that can sometimes make study feel like a chore.19
For anyone who feels artistically intimidated, I discovered a few low-stakes, high-reward ways to begin.
The most transformative for me was the Index Card Method.
Instead of facing a blank journal page, I started with a simple 3×5 index Card. Each day, I would choose one verse from my reading and write it on the Card.28
It was small, manageable, and wonderfully low-pressure.
If I smudged the ink or didn’t like my handwriting, I could just grab another Card. I would use a couple of colored pens to make a key word stand out or add a simple border.
These little cards became tangible reminders of God’s truth that I could tuck into my car’s dashboard or tape to my bathroom mirror.28
From there, I grew bolder.
I started with simple doodling in the margins of my Bible.
Not elaborate illustrations, but simple symbols.
A heart next to a verse about God’s love, a flower next to a verse about growth, or a lightbulb next to a new understanding.27
These little visual cues helped anchor the truth in my memory in a way that text alone never could.
For days when I felt completely unartistic, I found that stickers and washi tape were a wonderful way to add color and beauty to my journal pages without the pressure of drawing anything myself.14
A strip of floral tape at the top of a page or a simple sticker next to a promise brought a sense of joy and personality to my notes.
The simplest creative act of all was Scripture writing.
I set aside a special notebook just to write out passages of the Bible by hand.
The physical act of forming the letters and words slowed me down and forced my brain to process the text on a deeper level.
It’s a powerful form of meditation that aids focus and memorization, and it requires nothing more than a pen and paper.27
These creative practices transformed my study from a black-and-white analysis into a full-color experience of worship, making my time in the Word something I truly looked forward to.
Walking Together: Finding Your People and Your Path
As I grew more confident in my personal study, I felt the pull toward community.
The Bible is clear that we are meant to grow together, sharpening one another like iron sharpens iron.29
But my early experiences with group studies had been mixed.
I remember sitting in one group that felt less like a Bible study and more like an unstructured group therapy session.30
Week after week, the discussion would veer into personal problems, and while the support was well-intentioned, we rarely made it back to the Scripture.
I left feeling heavy with the burdens of others but spiritually unnourished myself.
It was a delicate situation; needs are real, but when they consistently overshadow the study of the Word, the group loses its primary purpose.1
This experience taught me a valuable lesson about what I call the “Vulnerability Paradox.” Deep, authentic community where women can be vulnerable is a beautiful fruit of studying God’s Word together.
However, if that vulnerability becomes the goal itself, the group can quickly become untethered from its biblical foundation.1
A healthy group creates a safe space for sharing
because it is securely anchored in the truth of Scripture.
The Word becomes the lens through which struggles are viewed and the source from which hope is drawn.
Through trial and error, I developed a mental checklist for evaluating a group, one that I now use to find life-giving, Word-centered community.
Checklist for a Healthy Bible Study Group
- Is the leader a gentle guide? A good leader facilitates discussion but always guides the conversation back to the biblical text when it veers too far off track.1
- Is the Bible the main course? While video teachings and study books can be excellent supplements, the primary text for a Bible study should always be the Bible itself. The best guides teach women how to dig into Scripture for themselves, not just what a speaker thinks about it.1
- Is truth handled with grace? In any group, wrong answers or misinterpretations will come up. A healthy group addresses these gently, not with a pounce, but with a humble search for the right interpretation, affirming the truth of the passage.1
- Are there clear boundaries? Well-run groups establish expectations for sharing upfront. This protects the group from becoming a counseling session that no one is equipped to handle and ensures confidentiality is maintained.30
- Is it doctrinally sound? Before joining, it’s wise to research the author and publisher of the study material to ensure their doctrine aligns with your own convictions and that of your local church.23
Sometimes the best way to start with community is small.
Finding just one trusted friend to go through a study with can provide incredible accountability and encouragement.8
And in seasons of life when in-person meetings are difficult—like when you have small children at home—online communities can be a true lifeline, connecting you with other women who are in the same boat.33
Once you feel ready to take the next step, either on your own or with a group, the sheer number of available resources can feel just as overwhelming as that first blank page.
Having a curated list of trusted guides can make all the difference.
| Category | Recommended Resources | ||||
| Trusted Authors for Women | Jen Wilkin: For her focus on biblical literacy and teaching women how to study.25 | Priscilla Shirer: For her dynamic teaching and powerful application on topics like prayer and spiritual warfare.35 | Lysa TerKeurst: For her vulnerability and insight on topics like rejection, trust, and identity.9 | Kelly Minter: For her beautiful studies on books like Ruth and her relatable approach to Scripture.25 | Beth Moore: A long-trusted voice known for her in-depth, life-changing studies on books of the Bible.25 |
| Excellent Beginner Studies | Women of the Word by Jen Wilkin: Not a study of a Bible book, but a foundational guide on how to study with your heart and mind. A must-read for beginners.34 | Open Your Bible by She Reads Truth: A seven-session study designed to give women the confidence and tools to engage with Scripture daily.36 | Esther: It’s Tough Being a Woman by Beth Moore: A relatable study on a woman in the Bible that shows God’s sovereign timing and control.25 | Ruth: Loss, Love & Legacy by Kelly Minter: An inspiring study that helps process unmet expectations and trust God with the future.25 | |
| Helpful Apps & Websites | YouVersion Bible App: Offers thousands of reading plans, devotionals, and audio versions of the Bible.5 | She Reads Truth: Provides aesthetically beautiful and theologically rich online studies, an app, and printed study books.5 | Blue Letter Bible: A free online tool that is excellent for simple word studies when you want to understand the original meaning of a Greek or Hebrew word.5 |
The Unfolding Journey
I looked at my Bible on the nightstand this morning.
The leather is soft and worn now.
The pages are no longer crisp; they are filled with underlines, notes in the margin, a few coffee stains, and the occasional smudge of a colored pencil.
It is no longer a weight.
It is an anchor.
The journey from that first dusty cover to these well-loved pages was not a straight line.
There were days I felt on fire and days I felt nothing.
There were seasons of deep, consistent study and seasons where just reading a single verse on an index card was a victory.
The transformation was not that my life became perfect or that all my struggles vanished.
The transformation was that I was no longer spiritually starving.2
I had learned how to feed my own soul.
If I could leave you with one final thought, it would be this: give yourself grace.
This is a lifelong journey of getting to know an infinite God.
You will not arrive overnight.
His mercies, thankfully, are new every single morning.3
Your identity is not found in how perfectly you study your Bible; your identity is rooted in the finished work of Jesus Christ.4
He is not looking for perfect students; He is looking for children who will simply come to Him.
So I invite you to begin.
Not tomorrow, not when you have more time, not when you feel more qualified.
Begin today.
Take that beautiful, intimidating book off the shelf.
Open it to the first chapter of John.
Say a simple, honest prayer.
And take the first small, imperfect, grace-filled step on your own journey from a blank page to a full heart.
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